Overcoming Jealousy is
generally a must in a home with another brother or sister; although the
reactions of jealousy can be very different, depending on the age, the temperament of each
child or other issues.There are
children who are happy to have another brother or sister, but others don´t take
it so well. Of course, these feelings are usually from the tiny ones; they
have a disposition to fight for the winning of Mum and Dad´s
affections.Sometimes they may have eratic reactions only to call their attention.What can you
do? It is said that patience is a virtue which is always necessary when leading
with children and here are some tips to help you out:
Everytime you can, allow your eldest child to participate in any activity you do
with your newborn baby.
- Ask your
child to draw something for the newborn baby´s room or wall.
- Sit your
child on the armchair next to you and put the baby on his|her lap.Explain to
him|her that the baby cannot hold his head up so he needs to
place his|her arm under the baby´s head.
- Explain to
your child that he|she was also a small baby like his brother or sister and tell
him what he was like as a newborn baby.(*Important
point for overcoming jealousy)
- During bath
time allow your child to be present while you are bathing your newborn baby and
even allow your child to bath a doll.
- You could
organize a small party so that your child´s friends come over to your house and
meet your newborn baby.
There are story books you can buy mentioning this situation.Take your time and
read it to your son|daughter.
- When somebody
comes to visit your newborn baby they will probably bring a present along
with them. Make sure you have bought some presents for your eldest child
just in case they don´t bring for him|her as this situation will bring about
jealousy.(*Important point for
- When your
husband comes back home from work and goes directly to see his newborn baby make
sure you remain playing or talking to your eldest child.
- Keep the
routine of your eldest child. If before going to sleep you Mum or Dad used to
take your child to bed and read him-her a story , continue doing this.
- If your child
feels uncomfortable knowing that the tiny one sleeps overnight with Dad and Mum
explain that baby needs to feed during the night and that it is better for everyone.
This will calm him down and it will things easier for him/her in the process of
- Take a photo
of the two of them and place it in an important place of your house.
- Some children
make a regression in their learning and go back to their baby stage. They want
their dummy, they wet their bed or want to breastfeed again. Be patient and
allow your child to do any of this. All these attitudes are a part of a period
express affection when you have the opportunity, caress, cuddle and hug your
child and congratulate him|her for every good action and the most important of
all tell him|her: I LOVE YOU !!!!!